Do you think love at first sight exists? I’ve never been in love. I love my family and friends, but I’ve never experienced romantic love. Therefore, I don’t have abundant knowledge on the subject. I think a parent’s love for their child can bloom at first sight. I don’t think romantic love at first sight exists.
I think lust at first sight exists. For example, I can lust over Bridget Regan, but I don’t love her. I don’t know her! I can’t love someone I don’t know. I can love her acting skills (seriously, go watch “Torn” from s2 of Legend of the Seeker), I can love a character she portrayed, I can love her looks, but without personally knowing her, I cannot love her in the deep, abiding, romantic way. Sure, I may hope good things happen. I may wish her a happy personal life or I may be sad when she is not cast as Wonder Woman. Still, I believe knowing about someone’s character and intellect is imperative to love. Also, spending time with the person is needed. Therefore, I think romantic love builds over time; it can arise from lust at first sight, but they are not the same thing.
In The Wizard’s First Rule by Terry Goodkind, Richard essentially falls in love the first time he and Kahlan make eye contact,
“She stood straight and still, her arms at her side. Her eyebrows had the graceful arch of a raptor’s wings in flight. Her green eyes came unafraid to his. The connection was so intense that it threatened to drain his sense of self. He felt that he had always known her, that she had always been a part of him, that her needs were his needs. She held him with her gaze as surely as a grip of iron would, searching his eyes as if searching his soul, seeking an answer to something. I am here to help you, he said in his mind. He meant it more than any thought he had ever had.
The intensity of her gaze relaxed, loosening its hold on him. In her eyes he saw something that attracted him more than anything else. Intelligence. He saw it flaring there, burning in her, and through it all he felt an overriding sense of her integrity. Richard felt safe.”
Such an experience would be amazing, but I don’t think it is realistic.
Do you think romantic love at first sight exists?
In case you are either uninformed or silly, and don’t know why I would lust after Bridget Regan…
- Is love at first sight possible? (psychologytoday.com)
- Love at first sight: a reality or fantasy (youngisthanblog.wordpress.com)
- Like, Adoration, and Love (jljc2004.wordpress.com)
- Is Love At First Sight Really Possible? (misspeachygirl.wordpress.com)
- Attraction (newoldromantic.wordpress.com)
- Love at First Sight? (legitimatedopeness.wordpress.com)
- love at first sight (1uniquemommy.wordpress.com)
- Love at First Sight…. (aimanpeer.wordpress.com)
- Love at First Sight can blind you forever (glaciermen.wordpress.com)